Resentful Love

It's time to let go. Like, seriously. You love that person but if deep down you know it isn't meant to be, stop ignoring the facts. A person will only truly change if and when they are ready to do so. You cannot make someone change. If you ask someone to change it is likely you will push them away, it is not natural for a person to be told how to feel/act/think. If they do change based on your recommendations it is possible that one day they will realize they aren't being true to themselves. Ultimately, attempting to change someone could end up being more hurtful than helpful in the long run when/if they decide/realize they aren't being true to themselves.
You're upset because you believed they changed and not just for you but for a "better" them too.
They're upset for you even asking them to change and also for ever trying to be what you wanted them to be in the first place. The conclusion they come to is "I will never be enough." It is likely they will stop trying altogether. Resentment is born, neither party feels it was fair to be put in that position. The end result, usually, two broken hearts with feelings of indignation for each other. Now you've pushed each other so far away it seems it would be impossible to salvage anything good from what used to be. I believe so many relationships end with bitterness because it was a constant fight to make things the way each person wanted them to be.

Don't spend time torturing yourself, in reality the people we love the most tend to be the ones we need to love from a distance. It's not a fact we want to face, when we love someone we can make ourselves believe anything is possible. We ignore things just because we choose to see the best in someone but sometimes it's just not meant to be. One thing that I continue to not only tell myself but also others is that it isn't just about what we want, it's very important to understand what we need so that we make better decisions for ourselves in the future. One of the hardest things to do, in my opinion, is walk away from someone you love with all of your heart. Even after years of hurt and uncertainty you can find yourself reminiscing and even yearning for those good things you felt with that person. Maybe they knew exactly how to touch you at any given time, maybe you two fit together like puzzle pieces when you hugged or cuddled - those little things are what can keep us holding on, thinking that the feeling we get when we touch that person will never happen with anyone else. The world is big and the right one is out there, the question is are you patient enough to wait or will you find yourself repeating your same ways over and over again until it's too late?

Thanks for reading!

*kisses