Men vs. Women: What's Really Going On?

Where has the love and respect gone?
When did it get so bad?
Love shouldn't be a word that people throw around to get what they want, it should be used to express an undoubted and veracious feeling for another. As I've said in my piece Love Isn't To Blame and many other times, there is nothing wrong with love. If there could be something perfect I'd say love comes pretty damn close.
Once it is used in a fallacious or libelous manner one's view will change blaming love over one's own personal actions. You can love someone with all of your heart, I mean down to the bone but if you treat them wrong the affects will reflect those actions NOT the feeling. This is just a small introduction to the main topics. Let's get to it!
1. Why men of this generation don't commit, they just want sex.
2. Why women don't want a husband, they just want a child or children.

These both tie into each other and no matter which way you look at either one of these ideas, respect is a huge factor along with love and personal standards and/or beliefs. Now I'm an 80's baby and growing up it really seemed like a lot more people were more into building a foundation with someone and sharing their world with them until death do them part. In this day and age people have strayed very far from such or even just the idea of it. While studies show there are less divorces there has also been a decrease in marriages. However, there has been a huge increase of hoes, gold diggers, mistresses, womanizers/mananizers* (etc.) that it is to the point where the majority looks at these types of behaviors with a sense of normalcy. This generation is about more sex and less respect, where physical needs and appearance predominate the mental/emotional capacity of a person along with the drive a person may or may not posses. Let's face it, there is no such thing as men are worse or women are worse, both have devalued themselves in some way hence this generations lack of commitment and expectations. Many people don't have much to say but "I love them" when asked why they are with someone, a lot of people don't even realize it until they are actually asked the question.
Men don't want to commit because it's become so easy to get what they want without having to actually take the time to get to what they want. Women are not respecting themselves and end up dealing with a man who has no respect for women then once their heart is broken they act out in a way a woman shouldn't act.
Men are getting women pregnant and moving onto the next woman as if they have no responsibility to the child and or showing no respect towards the mother of that child.
Women are letting men impregnate them with the hope of keeping him around or having him in their life forever.
Because there are so many women with little to no respect for themselves men are taking advantage of that fact. Jumping from person to person and in a lot of cases pledging love to a "main" yet running around with "sides." This in turn makes for more competition so a lot of the time when a woman wants a man she uses her body, whether it be dressing to reveal or opening her legs with hopes it will make a man stick around.
Men are hiding what they want and accepting what is given because the majority of women are not looking respectable so to avoid getting a "bad apple" they just hop from person to person.
Women need to realize how you attract a man is how you will ultimately get a man. If you dress half naked and flaunt your body you are going to attract a man who more than likely only wants sex from you. If all he sees is tits and ass, he isn't going to be worried about your mental aspect.
Men tend to bury their emotions or downplay them while women tend to be vulnerable and willing to show how they feel.
Men are out here saying they want a classy woman yet always go to the less classy one's or the "hoes."
Women say they want a good guy but are out here degrading themselves just to get a little attention.
Men need to understand although they take the bait they are just as bad as the woman who is throwing it. Men don't want to commit because the sex comes before getting to know a person. A man will accept sex with no intention of anything else, they have the capacity to remove the emotional aspect from the situation where women are built to be emotional.
Women are just having babies and not getting married because they are going about finding a man in the wrong way. They are just having babies because they want to have someone to love and care for, since men are out getting what's easy that's the default option for many women.
Although it may not seem true, men want a woman they can respect, they don't want to be with someone they can easily have sex with. . .
If you don't respect yourself or show you want respect don't expect to receive it.
A man wants to be in control but that doesn't mean he wants a woman he can walk all over.
A woman wants a man she can grow with, love and care for but that doesn't mean have his baby so he won't go anywhere. Know having a child with someone doesn't always seal the deal nor is it a reason to keep a relationship in tact.
All in all the only way to change this viscous cycle is to do better but from where I'm looking it just gets worse and worse. We want our children to grow up with both parents and have a positive influence yet we run around acting as if none of that even matters.
Ladies if you want a good man stop throwing yourself around like a piece of meat!
Fellas if you want a good woman act like it and stop being blinded by the physical!
If you aren't about commitment and growth with someone don't act as if that is what you want just to get what you want, if you aren't shit let it be known. It's not right to take advantage of someone or play with their emotions, there is always a price to pay when it comes to that kind of behavior.

Note to reader: I am in no way implying that this is directed to all men or women. I am stating what the majority seems to be on. This is the kind of debate that could be analyzed from so many different angles. I'm just generalizing with my opinions based on what I know and what I have seen. At the end of it all there is no sex better than the other, each just has a different way of going about certain things but wrong is wrong.

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Thanks for reading!

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